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What Is Gamer Dating?
Dating where gaming is the common ground from the first message. Here is what that means in practice, and whether it suits you.
By the Gamer Singles Dating team
In short
- Gamer dating is dating where both people play, so gaming is shared rather than explained.
- People meet through gamer dating sites, general apps filtered for gamers, or games themselves.
- Shared time, shared plans and not defending a hobby are the reasons people give most.
- You do not need to play the same games, only to understand why the other person plays.
Gamer dating means dating with gaming as common ground: meeting someone who plays, through a site, an app or a game itself, so the hobby that takes up your evenings is something you share rather than something you explain. It can be as simple as a profile that says you main support in Overwatch, or as specific as a site where everyone has said gaming matters to them.
What does gamer dating actually mean?
At its plainest, gamer dating is dating where both people play. The term covers three different things people do. Some use a dating site or app made for gamers, where every profile is built around games and platforms. Some use a general dating app and filter for people who mention gaming. And some meet through games themselves, in guilds, clans, Discord servers or the lobby of a game they both play, and only later realise it has become a date.
What ties them together is the starting point. On a general app, gaming is one line in a bio that may or may not get a reply. In gamer dating it is the first thing you know about each other, which changes the first conversation from small talk to "what are you playing at the moment?"
Why gamers look for other gamers
The reasons people give are practical more than romantic. Time is the big one: someone who plays understands that a raid night is booked, that a new release eats a weekend, and that "five more minutes" is a real unit of time. Shared plans come next, because a partner who plays gives you something to do together on a Tuesday night that is not another series. And there is the plain relief of not having to defend a hobby that millions of adults share.
None of that means both people have to play the same things. A PC strategy player and a Nintendo fan can get on well, and part of the fun is being shown games you would never have picked up.
How it works on a gamer dating site
On Gamer Singles Dating, you join free, add the genres and platforms you play to your profile, and say what you are looking for, whether that is a relationship or someone to play co-op with first. Each day the site suggests matches based on your age range, distance, interests and the kind of relationship you want. You browse and send messages, and you can play a few sessions together online before you meet. The how it works page covers the features in full.
Who uses gamer dating?
More people than the stereotype suggests. On our site, the biggest age group is 25 to 34, followed by 35 to 44, and members come from the UK, the USA, Canada and Australia. Interests run from esports and FPS to cosy simulators, retro consoles, tabletop and anime. If you play anything regularly and would like your partner to understand why, gamer dating is for you.
Gamer dating site or general dating app?
A general app gives you more people, most of whom do not play. A gamer dating site gives you fewer, all of whom do. Which works better depends on how much gaming matters to you and how many players live near you. We set out the trade-offs honestly in our comparisons, for example Gamer Singles Dating vs Tinder, and the best dating apps for gamers guide covers the other options.
How to get started
Write a profile that sounds like you talking about what you play, not a list of titles; our profile tips for gamers walk through it. Add a clear photo of your face. Message people about something specific on their profile. When it is going well, suggest a few rounds together online, then a first date somewhere you can both talk.
Questions people ask
Is gamer dating only for young people?
No. On our site the biggest group is 25 to 34, followed by 35 to 44, and there are members older than that.
Do we have to play the same games?
No. Couples often play different things. What matters more is that you both understand gaming as a hobby.
Is gamer dating free?
Joining Gamer Singles Dating costs nothing, and neither do your profile, browsing or daily matches. Messaging without a daily cap needs a paid plan. See the prices page.