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How to Find Gamers to Play With
Group finders, communities, local events, and what to do when you want a player two who might become more than a teammate.
By the Gamer Singles Dating team
In short
- In-game group finders and guilds are the quickest way to find people to play with tonight.
- Communities built around a regular schedule are where lasting gaming friendships form.
- Local cafés, game shops and conventions bring players together in person.
- If you want to date, use somewhere that is for dating so you are both there for the same reason.
To find gamers to play with, use the matchmaking and looking-for-group tools in the games themselves, join a community for the game you play, such as a Discord server, a subreddit or an in-game guild, and go to local gaming events. If you would like a player two who might become more than a teammate, a gamer dating site is where that is the shared intention.
Use the tools in the game
Most multiplayer games now have looking-for-group or party finder tools, and many have clubs or guilds with recruitment boards. They are the quickest route to a match tonight. Add the people you enjoyed playing with as friends straight after the session, while the game is fresh, and invite them back next time.
Join a community for your game
Discord servers, subreddits and official forums for a game usually have channels for finding a group. Smaller servers built around a schedule, such as a weekly raid or a league night, are where lasting gaming friendships tend to form, because the same people turn up every week. Read the rules: most of these communities are for playing, not dating, and say so.
Find people locally
Board game cafés, game shops with tournament nights, retro bars, university and city gaming societies, and conventions all bring players together in person. Friendships made at a table often move online afterwards. Each of our city pages lists the kind of places worth trying where you live.
Finding gaming friends for free
Everything above is free. So is joining Gamer Singles Dating, building a profile around what you play, browsing members and getting daily matches, and you can say on your profile that you are open to friendship as well as dating. VIP members can also run private group chats for up to 50 people, which is handy for organising a regular game night.
When you are looking for more than a teammate
Looking for gaming friends and looking for a partner overlap, but mixing them up causes trouble. If you want to date, say so somewhere that is for dating, so the other person is there for the same reason. On a gamer dating site, the first message can be an invite to a co-op session, and nobody wonders what you meant by it. Our guide to finding a gamer girlfriend covers that side.
Be someone people want to play with again
Turn up when you said you would, keep voice chat friendly, do not coach people who did not ask, and be a decent loser. It is the same advice whether you are looking for a raid group or a relationship.
Questions people ask
How do I find gaming friends for free?
In-game group finders, community servers and local events are all free, and so is a profile on Gamer Singles Dating, where you can say you are open to friendship.
Can I find girl gamers to play with?
Yes, in the same places, with the same manners. On a gamer dating site you can see what someone plays and suggest a co-op session as a first step.