D&D Dating: Find a Player Two for Your Table

D&D dating simply means looking for a partner who shares your love of tabletop roleplaying, whether that is Dungeons & Dragons, Pathfinder, Call of Cthulhu or a shelf of board games. The easiest way to meet them is to say it clearly in a dating profile and to spend time where tabletop players already gather, remembering that a gaming group exists for the game before anything else. Here is how to do both, and how to keep the table a happy place if it works out.

Gamer Singles Dating is a dating site for gamers of every kind, and that includes the people whose favourite games come in a box or a rulebook rather than a download.

Why tabletop players make good matches

A good tabletop group runs on the same things a good relationship does. You turn up when you said you would, week after week. You listen, build on each other's ideas and make room for the quiet player to have their moment. You laugh when the plan collapses because someone rolled a one at the worst possible time. And you are comfortable with imagination, which makes for better conversation than most first dates manage.

There is a shared language too. Someone who already knows what a natural twenty feels like, or why the second Saturday of every month is always taken, saves you a lot of explaining. Dungeon masters bring planning and patience; players bring the willingness to commit to a bit. Both are attractive qualities.

Where to meet D&D players

• Game shops with open tables. Many friendly local game shops run regular roleplaying nights, introductory sessions and board game evenings that anyone can join.
• Board game cafés. Relaxed, sociable and full of people who like games. Some host meet-up nights for newcomers.
• Conventions. UK Games Expo in Birmingham, Gen Con in Indianapolis, PAX Unplugged in Philadelphia and PAX Australia in Melbourne all have tabletop games running from morning to night.
• Online groups. Plenty of campaigns now run on virtual tabletops over a video call, which opens up players far beyond your own town.
• A dating site for gamers. The only place on this list where everyone is there to date, so nobody is wondering why you asked them out.

One word of caution. A gaming group is somewhere people go to play, and the person across the table may simply want to enjoy the campaign. Be friendly, be a good player, and if you do feel a spark, ask once, privately and away from the session. If the answer is no, carry on as a good member of the party. That is how you keep both the seat and the friendship.

Putting tabletop in your profile

The interest labels on Gamer Singles Dating cover video game genres and platforms, so the tabletop side of you belongs in your bio, in your own words. Be specific, because specific is what people reply to:

• The systems you play: D&D, Pathfinder, Call of Cthulhu, a narrative game or two, or mainly board games.
• Whether you run games, play in them or both.
• A favourite character, or the one-line story of your best moment at the table.
• How often you play, so a match knows what your weekends look like.
• What you are looking for, from someone to share game nights with to a long-term relationship.

Something like "Forever DM, occasional bard. Looking for someone who will laugh at my villain voices and let me win at board games now and then" gives a match three things to reply to. Our gamer dating profile tips cover photos and the rest of your profile. Every day the site suggests matches based on the ages, distance and interests you choose, and you can say hello to anyone whose bio mentions the games you love.

Dating someone in your group

Sometimes it happens the other way round: you meet someone through your gaming group and the spark is already there. That is lovely, and it is also the moment to think about the rest of the table.

• Keep characters and couples separate. Your characters do not have to be in love, and it is fine if they are rivals. Do not team up against the party or take every decision to each other first.
• Leave arguments at the door. A disagreement from the car ride home has no place in the session.
• If one of you runs the game, be scrupulously fair. Nothing sours a table faster than the dungeon master's partner getting the best loot every week.
• Tell the group when you are ready to. People usually notice anyway, and saying it plainly makes it less awkward.
• Agree what happens if it ends. It is not romantic to plan, but deciding early that you will both keep playing, or that one of you will step back for a while, protects the group you both care about.

A session zero for dating

Good tables start a campaign with a session zero: a conversation before any dice are rolled about the tone of the game, what everyone wants from it and what is off limits. Tabletop players have also built simple tools for this, such as lines and veils (things that will never appear, and things that happen off screen) and the X-card, which anyone can tap to skip something without explaining why.

Dating benefits from exactly the same idea. Early on, talk about what you each want, how often you hope to see each other, how you like to communicate and what you are not comfortable with. Treat a no, or a "not yet", the way a good table treats the X-card: accepted at once, with no questions and no sulking. It is a respectful way to start, and tabletop players tend to find it more natural than most.

First dates that roll well

• A board game café. Pick a two-player game from the shelf, order coffee and let the game fill any silences.
• A game shop's demo night. Learning a new game together puts you on the same level and gives you plenty to talk about.
• A convention day. Busy, public and full of things to try, with natural breaks for food and conversation.
• A short one-shot for two. Once you know each other a little, one of you running a single-session adventure for the other is a playful, personal date. Keep it short and let the player lead.
• An escape room. Puzzles, teamwork and a clock, which tells you a lot about how someone handles pressure.

Good games for two to keep in mind: 7 Wonders Duel, Patchwork, Jaipur, Lost Cities, Codenames Duet and Sky Team, a co-operative game about landing a plane together. If you would rather play online, our list of co-op games for couples covers video games for two, and first date ideas for gamers has more ideas for meeting in person.

Safety, at the table and away from it

The usual dating habits apply. Have a video call before you meet, meet somewhere public, and tell a friend where you are going. Home games are a big part of tabletop life, but do not invite someone you have only met online to your home, or go to theirs, for a first meeting: start at a shop, a café or a convention instead.

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